. . . . . Hypocrisy Thy Name is . . . . . منافقت . . . . .

آئین جواں مرداں حق گوئی و بے باکی..اللہ کے بندوں کو آتی نہیں روباہی...Humanity is declining by the day because an invisible termite, Hypocrisy منافقت eats away human values instilled in human brain by the Creator. I dedicate my blog to reveal ugly faces of this monster and will try to find ways to guard against it. My blog will be objective and impersonal. Commentors are requested to keep sanctity of my promise.

Thursday, March 30, 2006

My BODY is MY Own Business

I OFTEN wonder whether people see me as a radical, fundamentalist Muslim terrorist packing an AK-47 assault rifle inside my jean jacket. Or may be they see me as the poster girl for oppressed womanhood everywhere. I'm not sure which it is.

I get the whole gamut of strange looks, stares, and covert glances. You see, I wear the hijab,
a scarf that covers my head, neck, and throat. I do this because I am a Muslim woman who believes her body is her own private concern.

Young Muslim women are reclaiming the hijab, reinterpreting it in light of its original purpose
to give back to women ultimate control of their own bodies.

The Qur'aan teaches us that men and women are equal, that individuals should not be judged according to gender, beauty, wealth, or privilege. The only thing that makes one person better than another is her or his character.

Nonetheless, people have a difficult time relating to me. After all, I'm young, Canadian born and raised, university educated why would I do this to myself, they ask.

Strangers speak to me in loud, slow English and often appear to be playing charades. They politely inquire how I like living in Canada and whether or not the cold bothers me. If I'm in
the right mood, it can be very amusing.

But, why would I, a woman with all the advantages of a North American upbringing, suddenly, at 21, want to cover myself so that with the hijab and the other clothes I choose to wear, only my face and hands show?

WOMEN are taught from early childhood that their worth is proportional to their attractiveness. We feel compelled to pursue abstract notions of beauty, half realizing that such a pursuit is futile.

When women reject this form of oppression, they face ridicule and contempt. Whether it's women who refuse to wear makeup or to shave their legs, or to expose their bodies, society, both men and women, have trouble dealing with them.

In the Western world, the hijab has come to symbolize either forced silence or radical, unconscionable militancy. Actually, it's neither. It is simply a woman's assertion that judgment of her physical person is to play no role whatsoever in social interaction.

Wearing the hijab has given me freedom from constant attention to my physical self. Because my appearance is not subjected to public scrutiny, my beauty, or perhaps lack of it, has been removed from the realm of what can legitimately be discussed.

No one knows whether my hair looks as if I just stepped out of a salon, whether or not I can pinch an inch, or even if I have unsightly stretch marks. And because no one knows, no one cares.

Feeling that one has to meet the impossible male standards of beauty is tiring and often humiliating. I should know, I spent my entire teenage years trying to do it. It was a borderline bulimic and spent a lot of money I didn't have on potions and lotions in hopes of becoming the next Cindy Crawford.

The definition of beauty is ever-changing; waifish is good, waifish is bad, athletic is good -- sorry, athletic is bad. Narrow hips? Great. Narrow hips? Too bad.

Women are not going to achieve equality with the right to bear their breasts in public, as
some people would like to have you believe. That would only make us party to our own objectification. True equality will be had only when women don't need to display themselves
to get attention and won't need to defend their decision to keep their bodies to themselves.

(Naheed Mustafa’s article was published in “The Globe and Mail” on June 29, 1993 under “Facts and Arguments” Page A26. She had graduated from the University of Toronto in 1992 with an honours degree in political and history and then she was studying journalism at Ryerson Polytechnic University)

Sunday, March 26, 2006

Want to be Happier ?

To become happier, we either need to:

(a) Change the world,
or (b) Change our thinking.

It is easier to change our Thinking!


It is not the problem that is the issue,
but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem that is the problem.
It's not what happens to you that determines your happiness.
It's how you think about what happens to you!

Wednesday, March 22, 2006

Strategy ? ? ?

Better strategy is:

Demand less, and instead, have preferences!

For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:
"I would prefer this, but if that happens, it’s OK too!"

This is really a change in mindset.
It is a shift in attitude, and it gives you more peace of mind.

You prefer that people are polite ...
but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day.
You prefer sunshine ...
but if it rains, it is ok too!

Saturday, March 18, 2006

Should ? ? ?

Let's say you expect that:

* Friends SHOULD return favours.
* People SHOULD appreciate you.
* Planes SHOULD arrive on time.

* Everyone SHOULD be honest.
* Your spouse or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.

These expectations may sound reasonable.
But often, these things won't happen!

So you end up frustrated and disappointed.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

Things are beyond control ?

When things are beyond your control, to avoid misery in your life:

* You must not decide how you think the world should be.
* You must not make rules for how everyone should behave.

Because when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry ! And that is what miserable people do.

Friday, March 10, 2006

Understanding the "Law of the Seed"

I f we understand the “Law of Seed”,
* we don't get so disappointed.
* We stop feeling like victims.
* We learn how to deal with things that happen to us.

Laws of nature are not things to take personally.
We just need to understand them - and work with them.

Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.

Monday, March 06, 2006

The Law of the Seed

Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on the tree and each apple has ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds!

We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?"

Nature has something to teach us here.

It is telling us: “Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow”.
So if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more than once."

This might mean that you will: attend twenty interviews to get one job. interview forty people to find one good employee.
talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, a business idea, etc.
meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special friend.

Friday, March 03, 2006

Blasphemous websites be blocked, orders SC

The Supreme Court on Thursday directed the government to block internet sites displaying sacrilegious cartoons and called explanation from authorities concerned as to why these sites had not been blocked earlier.

A three-judge bench comprising Chief Justice Iftikhar Mohammad Chaudhry, Justice Faqir Mohammad Khokhar and Justice Mian Shakirullah Jan was hearing a petition of Dr Mohammad Imran Uppal. It issued notices to Attorney General Makhdoom Ali Khan, Chairmen of the Pakistan Electronic Media and Regulatory Authority (Pemra) and the Pakistan Telecommunication Authority (PTA) for March 13.

The federal government, Ministry of Telecommunication, Pemra, PTA, Yahoo Incorporation USA and I & I Co, the host of blasphemous site, have been cited as respondents in the petition. Two petitions were filed against availability of blasphemous cartoons on websites; one by Dr Imran Uppal through his counsel Qamar Afzal, seeking complete blockage of sites showing blasphemous depictions and the other by Maulvi Iqbal Haider seeking registration of cases under blasphemy.

Makhdoom Ali Khan was also asked by the court to explore legal ways to block objectionable material on websites. "We will not accept any excuse or any technical objection on this issue as it concerns sentiments of entire Muslim Ummah," CJ observed adding, "all concerned authorities would have to appear in the court on next hearing with report of concrete measures for implementation of court's order."

Advocate Qamar Afzal argued that the authorities concerned should have blocked these sites immediately and any delay on their part led to violation of blasphemy law. Advocate Ibrahim Satti, counsel for petitioner Iqbal Haider, accused the government of criminal negligence by not registering criminal cases against those responsible for availability of blasphemous material on websites. He submitted that Pakistan was signatory of extradition treaty with many countries and responsible persons in other countries could be booked under existing national and international laws.

After preliminary hearing the court issued notices to all the respondents for March 13. Dr Uppal in his petition had prayed the court to strictly restrain the respondent internet service providers from publishing, transmitting and advertising any blasphemous material to Internet and their subscribers in Pakistan.

Thursday, March 02, 2006

I should be thankful

I should be thankful for;

* I can move about freely and express my beliefs, there are those who live in constant fear.

* I wake up in the morning and take a deep breath of fresh air, there are those who never got that far.

* My heart can be broken; there are those who are so hardened they cannot be touched.

* For the opportunity to help others, there are those who have not been so blessed.